Part 1 gave us nine traits of a real man, to strive for in our lives. I believe these same traits can be applied to the dance floor.
Confidence
1. Confidence: Dance with your partner like you have nothing to prove. Take each step with the confidence that you know what you are doing. If you don’t, then practice.
2. Courage: Go ahead, Ask her to dance. Take action. She wants you to ask her.
3. Responsibility: She said yes and now it’s time to dance. From the moment you take her hand, you accept certain responsibilities. You have two main responsibilities: 1. her safety and 2. her entertainment. Keep her safe. Keep her out of the path of other dancers. Keep her entertained. Engage The Conversation, not in words, but in movements. You don’t have to perform amazing moves and patterns. Just dance with her and her alone and to the best of your ability.
4. Discipline: You will excel at nothing without discipline. Dance is no exception. Dance requires discipline to maintain your health and discipline to maintain your skills. What is not practiced will be lost.
Honesty, Integrity and Kindness
5. Honesty, Integrity, and Kindness: Be honest with yourself. Know your own skill level. I’ve seen many men who thought they were great dancers who were not. I’ve also seen some who were but thought they were not. Ask your partners for an honest opinion and be man enough to take it to heart.
6. Treat Women Like Women: Women deserve a place of high honor in our lives. Be a gentleman, courteous and kind. Ask politely to dance and thank them afterwards because they have chosen to spend that moment with you.
7. Listen: Not just with your ears, but with your body. Is she following what you are leading? If not, don’t blame her. Either you aren’t leading effectively or you are doing things she doesn’t understand. Never dance beyond your partner’s level.
Defend the Weak
8. Defend the Weak: Don’t get involved in negative, back biting conversations about other dancers.
9. Inspire Submission: Submission today is such a terrible word to use because we have been indoctrinated into a belief that a woman should never submit to a man. That somehow, by submitting, the woman loses control. Submission is the ultimate act of control. In life and dance, sumission is the ultimate expression of trust. The person submitting is actually the one in charge. Yes, you heard right. Submission is a decision that must be made with each direction. On the dance floor, the woman chooses to accept the Man’s Invitation with each step and this puts her in complete control. Men, you cannot force submission. Rather, it must be earned. I’ll say it again. It Must Be Earned. It must be freely and willfully given or you are just a bully and will sit alone while others dance. Inspiring submission demands selflessness on your part. Inspire her to accept your invitation by inspiring her trust. How do you do that? Did you read 1 – 8 above?
Do you agree, disagree? Especially ladies, what is your opinion? What do you want from men on the dance floor?
Read 9 Traits of a Real Man – Part 1
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WOW!!! This is a great article, your words were exquisitly written and so true.
Thanks so much for articulating exactly what I have been searching for both on and off the dance floor. Everyone should read your articles.
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